Me and this girl broke up after 3 1/2 months. (I 29 she 25) Initially she told me that she lost the spark. She wanted to remain friends. I kept asking her i wanted her back because my heart said dont let her go. We fought over the next 3 weeks about getting back. She said things like you cant force it, give it time, etc.. Then she started to call me a crazy person cause i persisted and i know i did. Last night i get a text from her telling me the reasons for a break up. My charm got old. She was no longer attracted to me cause she is way outta my league, she felt i was buying her love and my asskising got sicking and now she says she will never be friends now and wants nothing to do with me. I think i pushed her to far. Will she ever talk to me again. Has anyone ever had someone talk to them again after something like this. I really just want to be friends. Any advice thanks
She just had gotten out of a 2 1/2 year verbally abusive relationship ending in a restraning order. Am i a rebound? lol She told me initially that she lost feelings and still wanted to be friends. Just to give her time. Now she assumed that i lied to her about things and that i tried to fool her during our relationship. She thought i was doing drugs, i was trying to buy her love etc. I was not doing drugs and i told her that i want to prove to her. Her reasoning to give me reasons was that she did not want me to have the satisfaction of thinking i fooled her. Is she nuts?
She also told me not to try to prove myself different then what she called me. She called me a liar and would never want to be my friend. I didnt lie, just acted extra nice cause i did not want to lose her, that was my mistake. I told her that i want to be friends when she was ready and she told me no thanks. Can she reallt stay mad at me forever when we both agreed we had a good relationship??? ANY ADVI
As much as it hurts, yes, yes she can not be friends with you anymore and no, she’s not nuts. I understand where she’s coming from, actually. I was in a nearly identical situation. Pushing her to get back together with you for THREE WEEKS is far, far too much. If she didn’t want to get back together the first week, why would it change in the third? All you did was push her away. When you wanted to be friends, you might have been ready and she might not have been. You have to let her come to terms herself. Especially if she really thought all those things, she probably wanted to allow herself some time and distance to get over those things so she wouldn’t have to break it to you and be rude like that. But by constantly badgering her you didn’t give her that space and time, and what she did is final and no, don’t expect to be friends with her. I’m sorry.
BREAK UP Advice! Will she ever talk to me again, has a women ever felt bad and returned as a friend?
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Tuesday,
March
9th,
2010
Categories : Break up Advice
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I say … walk away. If she wants to be friends again, she will come to you. Otherwise you’ll just end up making her more annoyed. Plus, you won’t meet the woman of your dreams if you keep chasing one who isn’t interested.
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You’re the rebound. That’s OK. Time to find another girl. There’s LOTS of ‘em!
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Yes,you are a rebound and she has mental issues. Don’t date someone who "just came out of an abusive relationship". My brother did that, only to find out after they got married that the accusations were false. She accused my brother of many of the same things she accused her exes of doing. That marriage survived 5 years, until my brother had enough of her crap.
Edit: Women who have been in abusive relationships for a while end up with mental issues to deal with. A mentally healthy woman doesn’t jump from a 2 1/2 year relationship right into another.
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No, dude, you will never be friends with this woman. You broke her trust in you – she asked you to back off and you didn’t respect that, you kept pushing. She has no reason to trust or respect or like you now, so there is nothing to build a friendship on.
And if you’re honest with yourself, you don’t really want a friendship – you just want to keep her in your life any way you can.
So learn the lesson and move on.
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As much as it hurts, yes, yes she can not be friends with you anymore and no, she’s not nuts. I understand where she’s coming from, actually. I was in a nearly identical situation. Pushing her to get back together with you for THREE WEEKS is far, far too much. If she didn’t want to get back together the first week, why would it change in the third? All you did was push her away. When you wanted to be friends, you might have been ready and she might not have been. You have to let her come to terms herself. Especially if she really thought all those things, she probably wanted to allow herself some time and distance to get over those things so she wouldn’t have to break it to you and be rude like that. But by constantly badgering her you didn’t give her that space and time, and what she did is final and no, don’t expect to be friends with her. I’m sorry.
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wow’ i can tell ur worried u wrote soo much =Pwell me and my boyfriend just broke up and we were friends but when he found out i got another bf he got all hay wired and said crap to me and now i hate him – but i feel soo bad after wht i said to him and i am hirl all girls feel the same well most of them anyways you should respect her space and wait till she talks to you ‘ and don’t show her attitude she’ll start to feel u deserved wht you got i think tht ur a great guy and good things happen to good ppl she’ll understand her mistake and she’ll atleast wanna be friends with u !!! GOOD LUCK
ps: no worries !!
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don’t push for a friendship. one of my exs tried that with me and it pissed me off. simply because she wasn’t the type of person u would want to know. i regret ever dating her.
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Its typical for a girl who has been through so much like her to be scared about relationships. She obviously has a few problems since her last relationship and she needs to deal with it in her own ways. You seem to be a very nice guy and you have given her so much comfort and support which she threw away all in the end. You need to stop waiting for someone who just might never want to get back with you or be even simply your friend.Goodluck & i hope everything turns out for the best for you and her!
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